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Valiant

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1 Chron 10:12

12 all the valiant men arose and took the body of Saul and the bodies of his sons; and they brought them to Jabesh, and buried their bones under the tamarisk tree at Jabesh, and fasted seven days. NKJV

-         Valiant, Valor, or Virute are all translations of Hebrew word  2428 chayil, which is the same word used in Prov 31:10 for the virtuous wife.

-         These men swore to their own hurt and stood up when every one else was running (vs 7 shows every one else running & Prov 15:4 he who honors the Lord swears to his own hurt but doesn’t change.). Am I that kind of man? Will I stand up in the face of opposition, and inconvenience? God, help me to be a man of Valor living for you, regardless of the cost. Help me to stand my ground like David’s men. Whether the issue of Character is large or small, help me to be unmoving like his men, willing to stand when all else fled.

Hurt and Logic don’t mix

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Gen 16:5

5 And Sarai said to Abram, “May the wrong done to me be on you! I gave my servant to your embrace, and when she saw that she had conceived, she looked on me with contempt. May the Lord judge between you and me!” ESV

-         Hurt people don’t use sound logic. This was her idea that she told him to do. He did exactly what she told him to do, yet she was mad about it. I think I need to remember that hurt people lose their logic. I need to shut up when I am hurt & be patient with others when they are hurt. I need to remember to speak with a gentle answer. Prov 15:1 a soft answer turns away wrath. Defending your case just builds for an argument. God, help me to lay down my pride so I can draw people to you. Help me to value others more than myself.

-         Abraham was willing to give things up to have peace. Gen 13:8

-         Gen 2:24 this is especially true in marriage. On both sides of the coin, it is about being loving when they aren’t using logic, and realizing that when you are upset, your own logic is broken.

Circle of Offense

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Prov 25:9

Argue your cause with your neighbor himself; discover not and disclose not another’s secret, [Matt 18:15.]  AMP

-         We need to keep the circle of offense as small as possible. So often, we are hurt by someone, and we share it with three people. Then, we talk to the person, and we get it everything sorted out and move on.  However, there are now three people carrying around hurt and offense that was never theirs in the first place, plus anyone they may have told. Often, the circle of healing doesn’t reach out into the circle of offense. The original members get healing, but everyone who picked up the others offenses are left with them.

-         A gossip separates close friends Prov 16:28; Your negative words and attitude that you might have for a little while can spread to others and destroy there relationship and how they see some one else permanently.

-         Prov 10:18;

God has feelings too!

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Jer 2:2

2 “Go and proclaim in the hearing of Jerusalem, Thus says the Lord,

“I remember the devotion of your youth, your love as a bride, how you followed me in the wilderness,  in a land not sown. ESV

- God longingly remembers, God feels, He has emotions. He feels for His creation and loves them He hurts when they reject Him. Jesus earthly ministry was marked by compassion He felt for the hurting people. Matt 9:36; We hear of the hurt and anger when He was on the mountain with Moses as the people rejected Him Ex 32:8-11;

- Why is it that we rarely if ever think of how our choices affect God? We are told in Prov 28:4 that our choices praise someone, in Rom 6:16 we are told they declare our master and lord of our life. We can praise or deny God with our actions Titus 1:16. James says that if our actions don’t back our words, (where we say our faith is) it is dead. So with every choice that we make we praise or slap God in the face. Do we not care? How could we be so cruel to the one who loves us so deeply. I suppose we are like a selfish teen, who only thinks of themselves without any thought to how our choices affect those around us. As you read on in Jeremiah 2 God’s words sound like a rejected spouse. Someone who loves deeply who has been rejected without cause.

- God I am sorry for the ways that I have miss treated you. Where I have let my selfishness come before you.  Choices that I have made that have hurt you. Sorry for the things that I have said that came before you insulting or hurtful. I am sorry for my selfish behavior, both the choices that were directly pointed at you and the choices that affect the children that you love. God I ask for your forgiveness and thank you that you promised you would give it. Help me to keep in mind throughout my day how each of my choices affects you.

- Cheating on God. Jer 3:9;

-  This concept that God feels is not new to me but some how its depth just hit me a new. God again speaks of His people as an unfaithful lover. He feels pain like that of a lover that has been cheated on. Not even a one time repentant cheater, these people have no remorse they are all too content to keep sinning, as they do they create messes and they run further from God in their mess to try to fix it. They cheat with one God after another He compares them beyond a cheating spouse to a whore. The pain I would feel if my wife treated me this way would wreck me. I don’t know what I would do.

-          I too have caused God this pain. I have been unfaithful, putting myself and my desires before God. I sit hear and hear him cry I am a jealous God don’t do this to me. I love you I will give you everything just don’t treat me like this I want a relationship with you and then we go and reject him having affair with one thing and then another. Oh God I am sorry. Help me, I want to treat you right. I want to be faithful I don’t want to put anything before you.

-         It is easy to cry when emotions are high. But tears are not what is needed, change is needed. I have had people who have committed adultery come sit in my office in tears, but what do the tears mean if nothing changes? What can or should I change?

-         I need to be faithful with my God appointment in the morning and not let other things shove it around. I need to view it like a date.
I need to be obedient. When God challenges I need to step up. So that means I need to add a designated prayer time to my God date.